LARGE FAMILIES ARE ENVIED AND LITTLE ENZO DIDN'T EXACTLY UNDERSTAND WHY FOR A LONG, LONG TIME. HE GREW UP WITH PARENTS WHO WERE HAPPILY MARRIED AND MORE THAN EAGER TO PROCREATE, GIVING HIM AN EVEN FIVE SIBLINGS -- THREE SISTERS AND TWO BROTHERS. HE FELL RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE AT CHILD NUMBER THREE AND WAS PERMANENTLY BLESSED WITH MIDDLE CHILD SYNDROME. THROUGH CHILDHOOD, LORENZO -- AFFECTIONATELY NICKNAMED ENZO -- LEARNED VALUABLE LESSONS LIKE THE IMPORTANCE OF HARD WORK, THE MOST EFFECTIVE STRATEGIES FOR NEGOTIATION, HOW TO SHIFT EFFORTLESSLY BETWEEN INDEPENDENCE AND GENEROUSITY. IT'S SAFE TO SAY THAT WHILE HIS CLOTHES WERE RARELY NEW AND HIS GLASSES WERE OFTEN HELD TOGETHER BY SCOTCH TAPE, ENZO NEVER LACKED FOR LOVE OR AFFECTION, EVEN IF BOTH EMOTIONS WERE SOMETIMES DELIVERED WITH STRICT WORDS AND STRONG HANDS.
ACADEMICS WERE HARDER FOR ENZO, SURPRISING MOST PEOPLE SINCE HIS GLASSES PERCHED PROUDLY ON HIS NOSE LIKE A BADGE OF HONOR, BUT HE MADE IT THROUGH HIGH SCHOOL WITHOUT BEING THE VICTIM OF TOO MUCH BULLYING AND WITHOUT HAVING HIS EGO INFLATED TOO MUCH. IT WAS, HONESTLY, AN ABSOLUTELY ORDINARY EXPERIENCE. ENZO SHUFFLED INTO ADULTHOOD WITHOUT A SECOND THOUGHT OF TOSSING ALL THOSE LESSONS HIS MOTHER, OLDER SISTER, AND AUNTS WORKED SO HARD TO EACH HIM. DISCIPLINE ASIDE, HE FOCUSED ON THIS NEWFOUND FREEDOM THAT ALLOWED HIM TO LITERALLY DO, SAY, AND BE WHATEVER HE WANTED. SOON, THOUGH, HE REALIZED WHY HE AND HIS SIBLINGS WERE OFTEN FORCED TO SHARE CLOTHES AND TOYS. THE REAL WORLD WAS EXPENSIVE. HE QUICKLY APPLIED FOR AND WAS AWARDED FINANCIAL AID TO ATTEND NYU, WHERE HE MAJORED IN ART, AND PICKED UP SEVERAL ODD JOBS TO ALLOW HIM TO TRAVEL.
SOON THE THINGS THAT WERE OUTLAWED IN HIS PARENTS HOME -- DRINKING IN EXCESS, DRUGS OF ANY SORT, AND WOMEN WITH LOOSE MORALS -- WERE ENZO'S PRIMARY FOCUS AND HIS FAVORITE GUILTY PLEASURES. HE SPOILED HIMSELF WITH THEM, GAINING WHAT HE'D LATER CALL VALUABLE LESSONS ALONG THE WAY. BY THE TIME HE GRADUATED FROM NYU, ENZO WAS BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HARD PLACE. HIS LIFESTYLE OF PARTYING UNTIL HIS MEMORY WAS AS BLACK AS THE NIGHT SKY WAS NOT WELCOME AROUND HIS FAMILY AND THE HABIT HAD DRIVEN A SERIOUS WEDGE THERE. THE CHOICE WAS SIMPLE AND IT WAS HIS, HIS ALONE, AND HIS FATHER HAD MADE THAT CLEAR TO HIM SEVERAL TIMES OVER HIS TIME IN COLLEGE. SOMETHING ABOUT WAKING UP WITH A BLEEDING NOSE AND WHAT SEEMED TO BE AN INTENSE STOMACH FLU WAS THE FINAL STRAW. ENZO MADE THE DECISION TO BE A FAMILY MAN AGAIN.
HE RELOCATED FROM MANHATTAN, WHERE HE HAD BEEN LIVING IN A STUDIO WITH TWO ROOMMATES, BACK TO ASTORIA WHERE HE GREW UP AND BEGAN TO PUT HIMSELF BACK TOGETHER. AT THE AGE OF TWENTY-FOUR, THOUGH, IT DIDN'T TAKE HIM LONG TO BOUNCE BACK AND GET INTO THE SWING OF THINGS. HIS FAMILY, TRUE TO ABSOLUTE FORM, DID NOT MISS A BEAT AND TOOK HIM BACK AS THOUGH HE HAD NEVER BEEN MISSING FROM THEIR LIVES. ENZO RETURNED TO THE GROUNDED, SENSIBLE, CALCULATED, GENUINE MAN THAT HIS MOTHER HAD RAISED. HE MADE HIS UNCLE PROUD BY APPRENTICING AT THE RED PARLOUR AND EVENTUALLY TAKING A POSITION AS ARTIST THERE. THE THIRD BORN AND THE LAST TO LEAVE, ENZO MOVED OUT OF HIS MOTHER AND FATHER'S HOUSE TWO YEARS AGO WHEN HE WAS WEEKS SHY OF BEING TWENTY-SIX. TWO YEARS LATER, ENZO DOESN'T REGRET ANY OF HIS DECISIONS. NOT EVEN THE BAD ONES.
vincent lorenzo bessini
BIRTHDATE / AGE:
february 13, 1985 / 30
tarrytown, new york
STATUS & ORIENTATION:
single & heterosexual
bachelor of art history
(2004 - 2008) New York University
co-owner and artist at bessenzi's
manager of the bar and inventory at fritz's
rafe, 2 year old pit bull (adopted from aspca)
randy, 3 year old cocker spaniel mix (adopted from aspca)
enzo doesn't speak italian fluently, but he can get by in a conversation. his accent was inherited, it's specially thick when he's angry. his father and mother, however, speak italian fluently and so does carine and alfonzo. lorenzo's other siblings, though, fall into the same category as him. speaking more than the typical person, not enough to be considered fluent.
love is an emotion that enzo feels regularly; actually, he quite enjoys the vulnerability and intimacy of it. as a result, relationships tend to move on the faster side with enzo, but he's never lived with a woman longer than a year. women aren't the only thing lorenzo falls in love with. ideals, books, movies, animals. love is the emotion that lorenzo feels most comfortable with. where it terrifies most people, it makes him feel safe and secure.
his most devastating relationship to date was with emberly castles
. their coupling lasted for a year, give or take, and it ended when he moved into the apartment he lives in now. she was the only woman to date that he actually considered proposing to. nicole
was the second most difficult break-up to endure. lorenzo decided to give up the outlaw lifestyle; he wanted to relocate for family business, something he doesn't talk about much, and nicole wasn't ready to leave her friends and family.
lorenzo never leaves home without his leather bi-fold wallet, keys, comb, scrubbed 9mm, and sunglasses.
a lot of times, enzo's genuine nature and lack of a filter combined with his compassion are mistaken for things they aren't. flirtation, sarcasm -- a whole range of assumptions can come out of the way he carries himself and the things he says. his temper, however, can't be confused. if you've witnessed him become angry then you know that his regular every day attitude isn't the least bit threatening.
left several things in his youth and has no intention of picking them back up: cocaine, recreational opiate use, beat boxing attempts, and an eager dick. he still smokes the occasional cigarette, but it's mostly social smoking at this point.
to the surprise of most people, lorenzo has a degree from nyu in art history, but unsurprisingly he's never done a single thing with it. he also has no plans to do anything with it, but he doesn't regret getting it at all. the only thing he's ever been good at is exactly what he does now.
was opened three generations ago in astoria, queens, new york city. right after the bessini family immigrated to the united states. originally, the restaurant was a front for their family's part in the mafia's gun running and gambling ring. as the organized crime was broken down and key relatives went to jail, the bessini family turned it into something more legitimate.
as of september 2015, fritz's second location was opened in tarrytown, new york city. it's still family owned and operated; lorenzo's uncle and his children are longtime residents of sleepy hollow and his uncle controls the restaurant the same way his father does the astoria location. the tarrytown location has more employees that aren't family members than the astoria location, but the vibe is still the same -- a big, welcoming, traditional, loud family.